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(Pro) It’s great to know real friends have your back- and no ladies, not the kind that will help you slash his tires while you key his car, lol, not that type of support. They are there when you need them. They support your goals or dreams with encouraging words, opinions, and helpful ideas. You can rely on them if need be and it’s assuring to know they have your best interests at heart.
(Con) On the flip side, some so-called friends are barely
or never available. You invest more
friendship than they do. Any dream/goal you share automatically receive a negative
response (sigh, chuckle or full fledge laugh- dream crashers or haters, I like
to call them). They may be intimidated by how successful you could become. Don’t
allow their limited ambitions and lack of courage block/reflect on your ability
to shine.
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Do your real friends respect/value you?
(Pro) Friendships
involving this trait are not easily broken based on these merits. The bonds are
strong and healthy; they cherish you and treat you like they would want to be
treated. They love what you bring into their life, whether great conversations,
laughs, positivity/spirituality…a genuine connection. It’s a 2-way street but their
true love and friendship shines through and won’t ever cross the line of over-stepping
their boundaries to disrespect someone who they value as a friend.
(Con) However, if you never had this foundation it
will never work. They have no consideration for you or anything you represent. They
treat you as if you’re beneath them with no life at all. They will try to
violate and devalue you because of their insecurities. They put on a united
front for others they deem more worthy to make you feel less than, treating you
unfairly. These are the type of ‘so called’ friends who can easily lose your
friendship with no hesitation. So ask yourself were they ever your friend to begin with?
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Are your friends understanding and trustworthy?
(Pro) A great friend will be an ear to listen or shoulder to cry on. They are patient, caring and understanding. When matters of the heart bares deep they know the sensitiveness and not dare add more pain to an already hurtful or chaotic situation. A friend must feel comfortable enough to trust another with certain information. If you’re the lucky friend, feel honored they hold you in high regards, it’s a beautiful thing. It’s even more comforting to know a friend can keep private information to themselves.
(Con) Never
negatively judge or voice how someone should feel or handle situations, especially
when it didn’t happen to you. There is not one correct way to cope with dilemmas.
What you can easily shrug off with
no emotional invested ties, may not come as easily to the next. Only GOD can
judge and measure how much someone can bear. You might have private situations
going on, as well, in your own back yard (nobody’s perfect) but still have the
audacity to judge or gossip about others. Please have several seats, sit down-lol!
Don’t agree with a friend solely because it’s your friend but your approach may
contribute to the flow of the situation. Timing and tact plays a huge part.
Lastly, the moment you divulge sensitive information to a friend but at some point everyone knows about it, you may need to rethink what you tell that person going forward. Not all information is meant to be aired in a round table discussion amongst other friends or family members. If others are joking, at your expense, about a hurtful or chaotic situation then ask yourself, “Are these people who I really consider or call my “friends?”
All in all, great friends support one another on their journeys, they uplift and appropriately voice their opinions in such a way not to hurt or disrespect. They show compassion for the friendship and add value to your life not taking away from it. If you are or have friends in the “Pros” category, congratulations you’re amongst a great group of friends worth holding on to. But, if you or your friends hold the “Cons” category up high, either make adjustments to become a better friend yourself or simply get rid of negative clutter weighing you down by delete them out your life.
Treating people in a
poor manner, being messy, cutthroat or throwing shade really says a lot about
that person. As we all know, you reap what you sow…so think about how you treat
others the next time you’re in their presence. If you hit a snag with a friend
but the friendship is worth holding on to…work it out, be a friend. You’ll be
surprise how far communication, (an apology) with the words “I’m sorry” will takes you. ~xoxo uc~
How do you handle friendship situations, being on both ends? Comment below.
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